Booking a boudoir session can be scary and kind of intimidating. Even more intimidating is figuring out what to do in preparation for your newly booked boudoir session! I was sitting here trying to decide how to put into words what you should do to prepare for your session, and low and behold, I found this gem of an article that was already written!
With help from Lauren Jones of Boudoir by Lauren in Morristown, New Jersey, here is your guide to preparing for your first (or second, third, or seventh) boudoir session!! Sip your favorite drink and enjoy these words of wisdom!
If you’re anything like most women that have contacted me, you’ve considered a boudoir session out of your comfort zone. You probably haven’t been gearing yourself up for the day that you pose half-naked in front of a complete stranger!
Yet, here you are, about to cross off another item of your bucket list, and you have no idea how to prepare.
Not to worry! The truth is, that you don’t have to be a supermodel or have any training whatsoever for a boudoir session. And don’t worry, you don’t have to starve yourself, or workout to utter exhaustion to do a boudoir session. In fact, I encourage the exact opposite! Eat well in the days leading up to your session. Don’t exercise any more or less than you normally do. Be kind to your body, feed it well and don’t over-exert it!
The truth is, you should do a session where you are and as who you are. Right now. These words are bolded because I really want you to understand the truth behind them. We spend so much time thinking that we should be skinnier or prettier or have longer hair or a smaller butt…why can’t we just love us the way we are at this moment? We may not be where we think we want to be, but that doesn’t mean that we should love our bodies any less.
When I started photographing these boudoir sessions, I realized how much confidence these sessions bring to the women who do them. Not because they got into the best shape of their life (although some do book a session to celebrate such victories) but because they wanted to feel beautiful and recapture their unique femininity. Life sometimes sucks that away and leaves us feeling unbeautiful and unfeminine…boudoir is a terrific way to take that back!
Do you know how it feels to discover you’re beautiful as you are, not as you could be?
How do you even prepare for a session now, as you are? What if you want to schedule a session next week? How CAN you prepare? Very easily!
First of all, get excited! This pampering experience is like going to the spa, only you walk away from the experience with EVEN MORE to look forward to in the result of a lifetime of sexy images that you can be proud of!
Secondly, go shopping. Mandatory? No. Frivolous? Possibly. Hype-inducing? Definitely. I don’t mean going to Victoria’s Secret and buying the skimpiest piece of lingerie that you don’t even want to try on. Go to Forever 21, or that vintage thrift store around the corner, and find some cool accessory that you would never wear in public! This session is about showcasing your unique style and taste. Pick out an old-fashioned corset, a set of fishnet stockings, or those hot pink stiletto peep-toe pumps you’ve been eyeballing for months. Your photographer will probably send you a list of must-have items, but most of those are things you already own, like black panties, and your favorite pair of jeans! Why not pick up a few extras to bring a little more of YOU to the session!
Thirdly, keep your skin healthy. Yes, you read correctly, your skin. Make sure you’re drinking plenty of water to stay hydrated, use moisturizer so you don’t have rough elbows, knees and feet. Don’t go tanning. Trust me, you’ll look way more orange than you expected. You’ll also want to be careful of your tan lines if it’s summer and you’re planning on wearing something that doesn’t follow the same lines as your bathing suit! (Think bikini bottom tan lines in your new g-string…). Also, this one is really important, if you shave or wax your lady regions, please do this far enough in advance so that any redness or bumps will be gone by the time your session happens. Also important, get a manicure and pedicure. The devil is in the details and if the rest of you looks amazing, so should your nails and cuticles!
If your session includes hair and makeup, there’s not much more you need to do! If not, then…
Fourthly, schedule a blow out and hire a makeup artist. Yes, you probably know how to do your own hair and makeup at this point in your life, but trust me. You want a professional who is looking to style you for the camera, not the office. I highly recommend booking your session with hair and makeup included. Again, you don’t want to look like you’re going to the office for the day. You want to look red-carpet ready and most of us do not know how to achieve that look on our own. Plus, why not take advantage of someone else’s ability to pamper you and make you look like a rockstar!!
Fifthly, and most importantly, RELAX. You are most likely going to feel awkward when you first arrive at your session, but your photographer didn’t choose boudoir as their photographic focus without some prior experience! You may start thinking “I should have brought a friend…” but in my experience, you will regret that decision as soon as you start to get into your groove!
You ARE capable of being seductive, beautiful and bold when you allow yourself to be. With a friend present at your session, you may go from feeling secure to feeling reserved once you start!
Lastly, trust yourself. Your session is not going to look like anyone else’s. That’s a good thing. It’s what makes you so beautifully unique and you. Many women have an expectation that makes them hope, but also fear the results of their boudoir session. In the end, though, the session will bring you an experience you didn’t expect, a new found confidence in yourself, and proof that YOU ARE stunning and original, with the photographs to prove it.
(Original post can be found here)
So. Are you ready? Are you ready to be bold, to be real, and to be YOU? If so, reach out and let’s chat! I would love to get to know you, what makes you tick, what is your WHY for doing your session?
Until next time,
Keep it REAL 🖤